Being a parent is hard enough, but I did not realize the challenges I would face as a stepmom.
I am learning to accept my role as.
" The Stepmom," and loving it!
It wasn't always this way, and I have not fully mastered it. I still get upset when things do not go exactly how I intended. For example, I want a holiday to be celebrated on an actual day and not a day set by the court order papers.
This Easter was interrupted because my stepkids spent several hours with their biological mom. As I hoped they would celebrate the whole day with us. My four year old son was so excited to see what the bunny brought in his basket and could not wait for the egg hunt. I had to tell him we could not have the egg hunt until his brother and sister returned. It is days like this that remind me that as the Stepmom, it is out of my hands.
Christmas day, another holiday split between the two homes. The year before last, we told our youngest son Santa was coming a day early so his brother and sister could wake up to Christmas morning with us. I'm learning not to focus on tradition or certain days to celebrate a holiday but on who I'm spending it with, my family.
So if you are frustrated by these types of events, I get it. It is so frustrating, but as I wrote in my recent blog, Accepting Your Role As The StepMom,' remember your why. Why, you committed yourself to this family and remember you are not alone!
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